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Hi everyone! I hope you’re all well.
Towards the end of 2015 and for the first half of 2016 (it got a lot better towards the end), I experienced a really horrible battle with my mental health.
Anxiety took over my life and I really struggled to get back on my feet.
Since then, I’ve learnt a lot about overcoming it, what to do when I begin feeling anxious, and how to take my mind off things. I know a lot of you also suffer from anxiety, and so I wanted to share my top tips for riding it out and feeling better in the long run.
When you first start feeling anxious about something, try and put your logical head on. I know it’s hard, and my mind can really run away with me at times, but you need to try and sit back for a second and think ‘Right. Has this thing I’m anxious about ever happened to me before? What are the chances of it happening again? What are the chances of it happening at all? Can I do anything to change it happening? Is worrying and feeling anxious about it going to change the outcome?’.
Sometimes it’s good to just try and take a step outside of the situation and view it as a third party.
Think Positive Thoughts
Try and always have something you’re looking forward to, whether it’s as something as big as a holiday, or as small as having a book you’re excited to read before bed. Think about your friends and family and the people you love, and everything you have to be grateful and excited for in life. Write down 5 great things that happened to you today, however tiny they are, and try and free your mind of negative thoughts.
Make Yourself Laugh
I always stick a comedy film or series on when I’m feeling anxious; it takes my mind off it for a short while and usually ends up making me feel a lot better – it’s such a small thing to do but it can make you calm down a lot.
Remove Your Anxieties
This isn’t applicable for everything – sometimes you’re anxious about things you cannot change at all, and that’s perfectly fine. However sometimes, you will have a person or thing in your life that really sets you on edge. A friend that makes you feel shitty about yourself, a job you dread going to. If you can change it, change it – it’s not worth risking your mental health over, nothing is. Anyone or anything worth remaining in your life won’t make you feel anxious and on edge.
Get Help When You Need It
I’ll get to help in the form of talking to someone in the next point – however, sometimes you need some assistance in feeling better. I’m not promoting anxiety medication here, and I’m not knocking it either. My anxiety got me down so much I became depressed, and I was adamant I didn’t want to go on anti depressants however in the end I did go on them, and they helped me a lot. They were pretty much like my crutches whilst my broken leg healed, my broken leg being my mental health!
So don’t rule anything out completely; you need to do what is best for you in your time of need, whatever that entails.
Talk To Someone
I bottled a lot of stuff up when I was going through my worst stage of anxiety; I’ve found now that sending my friends a quick message, even if it’s the same thing I’ve said a million times before, can make a world of difference. I’m lucky to have friends that don’t get anxious about the same things as I do, so they can usually calm me down about my worries, and I can do the same for them. If you have a mum, dad, or family member you can chat to, it can be so helpful to talk to them.
I had talking therapy with a counsellor too, which was really helpful. I was really nervous for it, and it was sometimes difficult to find the time. Since then, I’ve found a website for people with anxiety and mental health struggles, called Instant Counselling (www.instantcounselling.com) where you can chat any time of day or not to a certified counsellor online.
It’s such a helpful service, for anyone with a busy lifestyle, unsociable working hours, or someone who is nervous about visiting a counsellor face to face.
If you want to get used to counselling and therapy before attending face to face sessions, the website is a really great way of getting used to it before doing so. I’ve teamed up with them to give one of you the chance to win 4 x 50 minute counselling sessions. If any of you have anxieties and worries, and feel this would be something you’d like to be in with a chance of getting, then just pop me a Snapchat (my Snapchat username is btongirlxo) saying ‘Instant Counselling entry’ and I will print screen it and save your entry, and pick someone this weekend to win. I’ve done it this way as that way no one can see you’ve entered; I know with something as personal as counselling you may not want to tell the world.
When you’re anxious and you’re denying yourself life’s little pleasures, you can end up feeling worse. Buy yourself that top from ASOS if you can spare a bit of money; eat the chocolate ice cream; watch Bridesmaids for the 5th time that week. Do whatever it is you love, and what will make you feel happy and better; there’s no point in making yourself feel worse when you’re already going through a difficult time.
I hope this post helped some of you who are struggling right now; I promise you whatever happens, it will get better, you just need to hang on and have faith. Sometimes it can take a while, but you will feel stronger eventually and you will get through this!
All my love BGP xx