My Advice For Every Girl

imageThroughout the past 16 months of being Brighton Girl Problems, I have received thousands of requests for advice from my followers, 95% of them about relationship problems.

I realised today that first of all, I physically don’t have enough hours in the day to respond to every question I get asked although I wish I did. The second thing I realised was that I have some universal truth for everyone that’s ever asked me a question, and I don’t know why I haven’t put it out there before.

Life seems like a joke when you’re young and most of my readership do fall into the ‘younger’ category of around ages 16-30 (not that past 30 you aren’t young). But between those ages you think life is an infinite playground and you’ll never get old, you’ll never one day look back on your life at 85 years old and think ‘where did all this time go?’.

The horrible truth is, is that we are all getting old every single day. The only thing you can be certain of in life is death, as morbid as that sounds. What I’m trying to get at, is that every week I read hundreds of questions sent to me from young girls saying that their boyfriend has cheated, abused them, betrayed them and now their relationship is in tatters. What I never seem to read is the magical line ‘I left him.’ (I’m not saying women don’t cheat, of course there’s women who cheat but for the purpose of this blog I am going to use the majority of questions I get as an example). Everyone seems so desperate to patch things up with this person who’s completely disregarded their feelings and their relationship, and I don’t understand why.

If you’re reading this and you’re one of these girls who is trying to make things work with an absolute waste of space, if you’re ever going to listen to a piece of advice in your life then make it this one; Give up.

Right now, this awful person may seem like all you want in the world but trust me, one day they won’t be. I would hate for anyone to look back at their life in 30 or 40 years time and realise they wasted years on someone who couldn’t give a flying fuck about them. Your life is worth just as much as theirs, and that’s what you need to start realising before it’s too late.

In no way am I saying it’s easy to give up on someone you’re madly in love with; it’s not at all. It’s one of the most difficult things you will have to do in life but sometimes it’s necessary. If someone doesn’t see you for the amazing wonderful fabulous person that you are then they do not deserve a second more of your time.

If you’re reading this I hope that you feel like a pink starburst instead of a yellow one, for once.

All my love BGP xx