Juggling a career and a relationship is a bit like buying that perfect pair of shoes and then trying to match the shade to a clutch bag; it appears impossible. Until you stumble across the right one and you wonder how you ever doubted yourself.
You will meet a lot of men in life who get choked up when they hear that you’re a career girl; they are backdated, living in the 1950s and they’re only a few steps away from buying you a floral pinny and a set of wooden spoons. They want to be the top earner, and to have that hold over you, that they provide, you cook and clean, and that’s how your relationship stays churning like a well oiled machine.
But not all that long ago, women all over the world finally came to the realisation that they too could have a career; they could be CEOs and doctors and editors and consultants and anything they wanted to be. They didn’t need a mans validation, permission or financial stability. They could have all that by themselves.
Fortunately, men like that are rare and should be avoided, like the glaring summer sun at midday. Most men you meet will happily welcome a career girl and everything she brings (we tend to have a lot of baggage… In the form of an overly creative mind, hundreds of notepads with scribbled ideas, and a phone constantly buzzing with emails even when they’re trying to sleep).
The most important thing to remember is that someone who truly loves you will never force you to give up your career, only encourage you and support you and be proud of your successes and downhearted at your losses alongside you.
Don’t get too caught up in money and material possessions; nothing will ever beat the feeling of having someone who truly loves and cares for you, so ensure you always make time for each other, even if it’s a Netflix and takeaway date night, or a last minute spa weekend away just the two of you.
When work is majorly hectic, try and combine the two; bring them to an awards ceremony or event, still have date night even if you do need to finish that piece before tomorrow morning, but just sit in your laptop in bed for an extra half an hour before you go to sleep; anyone worth having in your life will respect your career and be more than happy to have you working next to them rather than not with them at all.
You should never have to sacrifice one for the other; they go hand in hand and if either career or relationship risks the other one, then it needs a good looking at to decide whether it’s worth it or not.
Relationships and careers are two major things and they’re hard to juggle at times; but with commitment, and a love for both your job and your partner, you can make it work. Just like a well oiled machine.
All my love BGP xx