Let’s stop shaming each other. Let’s just stop.
You cannot go online, pick up a magazine or a newspaper for one minute without seeing a woman’s body being shamed, a lot of the time by another woman.
We are either too fat, too skinny, too toned or too flabby, our boobs are too big or too small, too perky to be real, we haven’t lost our post baby body or we’ve lost it too quickly, we’ve got the body of a 12 year old boy or we are just way too curvy, too muscly to be feminine or we’ve totally let ourselves go.
This is every single day. We are force fed continuously a view that says no matter how much we strive for perfection, we will never reach it, and that we must ensure our bodies resemble those of the supermodels on the front of the magazines we read, who will also get torn apart every single day for being ‘too thin’ or ‘too big’ for the catwalk.
When are we going to say enough is enough? That having a body that men who you don’t know or care about, and the media, deem to be ‘perfect’, is so much less important than the bigger matters in the world, and that in a society where women are continuously ripped apart for everything they do, we must learn to stick together.
Isn’t there so many things that are worse than being too thin or too big or having calves that aren’t ‘sexy’? Like being evil, vindictive, racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic? Aren’t those things all SO much worse than 32A boobs and stomach rolls?
If you live your life striving for perfection and beating yourself down because people say that you’re ‘too skinny’ or you’re struggling to shift the extra weight you gained getting pregnant, you’ll end being a totally miserable person.
If you were told you had 1 week to live, starting right now, I can bet you my life that what others perceived your body to look like would be the least important thing to you.
So to all the ladies who have been told they’re too thin, too fat, too tall, too small, not feminine enough or too feminine, that they’re boobs are too small or too big, and that their waist isn’t small enough and and their legs aren’t long enough – are you going to let the words of a bitter, unkind person shape you or strengthen you?
You are so much more than what someone else thinks of you.
All my love BGP xx