I wanted to do this blog post today because it’s been a while since I’ve done one like this, and I’m going through something right now that I want to find strength in, and help any of you that are going are going through the same.
A big chapter of my life, an over 2 year chapter, has just closed, and it was a very painful chapter to turn the page on, but it was necessary.
I’ve never thought I was ‘strong’; there’s something that tells people if they cry or get emotional, they aren’t strong, but that isn’t true. Strength is about carrying on because it’s the only choice you have, and thinking you cannot possibly carry on, but doing so anyway.
Sometimes you’re very used to having someone or something in your life, and when their time in your life is over, you find it very difficult to carry on without that person or that thing. What I have realised, is that you were a whole person before they or it entered your life, and you will continue to be whole after they or it have left it.
We are all put in difficult situations, every single one of us. If you think back a year ago today, you may have been in a situation that you never thought you’d get through, but you did. It’s necessary when going through bleak and painful times, to realise that you will get through it. You don’t have any other choice but to.
It’s okay to cry, when you’re going through a difficult time. It isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of being human, being in pain, and needing an outlet somehow.
Not everyone put in our life is meant to stay there; and it may seem like a sad thought, but one day you will realise that people come and go in your life for a reason. The people that are meant to be there, will stay.
I am not going to be defined by the hard times in my life, but by the strength I’ve showed when getting through those hard times.
I feel like hard times are sometimes a positive thing, too; they show who is truly there for you, and it also shows you that no matter what life throws at you, you can and will get through.
It’s no picnic, but I always like to think that without the hard times we wouldn’t appreciate the good ones.
If any of you are reading this, and going through a difficult time, no matter what it is, what I will say is; carry on. Take each day as it comes, don’t overthink. One of the things I’ve been doing recently when things have gotten too much, is simply putting my hand on my chest and feeling my heart beat. It may sound silly, but it works. It’s calming, and it also makes you realise that even though everything around you is broken, you have a purpose, you’re still going, and will continue to keep going no matter what happens.
Do things to make yourself happy, no matter what they may be. You need to look after yourself when things get tough, and not be too hard on yourself. If you missed the gym, or ate some chocolate cake, or text someone you shouldn’t in a moment of sadness, or bought yourself a whole new wardrobe, or cried on the train to work, don’t punish yourself. Sometimes we just need to do things without thinking of the implications.
This was a bit of a random and rambling post, but I wanted to share my current thoughts with you all.
Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve; respect yourself more than anyone else does. You are wonderful the way you are, and only deserve the best. Not everyone has the same heart as you, and that’s okay. The people who do will end up in your life somehow, and stay.
All my love BGP xx