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It’s Blogmas Day Two and today I’m talking about loneliness, specifically in the romantic form.
We all feel fine and well being single during the peak of Summer, when we are off on holiday, or sitting in pub gardens, but when it gets colder and darker, and everyone around us is coupled up, it can make us feel pretty shitty and alone.
I have now been single for about 2 months, and have been in a relationship for the past 2 Christmas periods, so it’s been a bit weird adjusting to being young (kind of), free (ish) and single (definitely) during the Winter months.
I’ve put together my top tips for combatting those crap feelings as the nights drawn in and it’s bitterly cold.
1) Go Out – And I Mean Out Out
Now, I know it’s cold, I know it’s dark, and I know you wanna stay in eating your weight in cheesecake and watching BBC dramas, but when you’re doing that, it’s when you tend to start feeling a bit down in the dumps, especially when your friends are staying in with their own partners.
Grab your single pals, or even the taken ones who are available, or your mum or sister or cousin or work colleagues or whoever, get glammed up in some sequins and red lipstick, and go and have fun.
Believe me, I love my onesie and central heating but I know for a fact that if I stay in weekend in weekend out, I’ll begin to feel a bit crap, and so I force myself to get out and about, even during the week, to cheer myself up, socialise and have fun.
2) Pamper, Pamper, Pamper
For those nights where you literally cannot face braving the cold in your LBD, get a face mask and some nail polish out and have a pamper evening. You’ll be occupied, and it’ll make you feel better about yourself; especially if you’ve recently come out of a relationship, feeling glam always makes you feel better.
3) Family Time
Family is so important, especially at this time of year. Spend an evening decorating the tree and drinking mulled wine, or watching Christmas films together, or baking. You won’t be lonely, or feel it, because you’ll be surrounded by people who you love and who love you. They are the people that will always be there for you through thick and thin.
4) A Good Book
Reading is a brilliant way to take your mind off things; get stuck into a good book, or a book series, that you can really commit to over the Winter period.
5) Charity Work
There’s always people worse off than us at Christmas, especially those that don’t have a home. Make up a load of sandwiches and hot drinks, and go out with some friends, colleagues or relatives and dish them out on cold evenings to local people who sadly don’t have a home. You’ll feel like you’ve done something worthwhile, and put your own life in perspective.
All my love BGP xx