Hi everyone, I hope you’re all well!
I wanted to do a kind of round up post to summarise 2018, share what I learned and took out of the year, and say hello to a new, and hopefully more positive and all round better year.
Here are the things I learnt last year, that will be giving me a much better 2019;
- Pay Attention To The Warning Signs – People normally show you exactly who they are pretty early on, if you pay enough attention. In early 2018, I was seeing someone who did a few things at the beginning that were not the kind of things you’d deem as acceptable behaviour, but I decided to turn a blind eye, despite friends warnings. The situation did end, however I should’ve called it off after the first warning sign, rather than the 8th or 9th. I’ve now learnt to trust my instincts, and not wait around for someone to behave badly again. Mark my words, I’m becoming a Sargent Major.
- Push Yourself Out Of Your Comfort Zone – By nature, I’m a pretty anxious person, so I’ve tended to say no to things in the past, just so that I don’t have to do anything that may set my nervous disposition off. In 2018, I said yes to meetings and to dates, things I normally wouldn’t have done, and I am so glad I did. I visited Dubai, and as a very nervous flyer I’ve only done long haul a few times in my life, and didn’t think I’d ever be able to again, but I did and I am so pleased, as it was the best holiday of my life. Even though I did have a literal breakdown on the flight back because of turbulence; soz to the air stewardess who had to basically do a Total Wipeout course by climbing up the aisle when the plane was vertical so that she could give me a bottle of Pinot as I was screaming the aircraft down. What a woman. Anyway, I have so many funny memories to look back on from 2018, just from agreeing to things.
- Be Yourself – I’ve always changed myself to fit and conform to whoever I’m with – it’s been my thing, albeit a bad thing, but my thing. My friends would actually sigh with exasperation when I’d meet a boy and yet again change myself to be exactly what he wanted. In 2018, after I got together with someone who hated my fake tan and lip fillers (if you’re looking for natural, look the other way hun), I realised that actually, this is who I am. I’m 1 part Juvaderm, 1 part Bondi Sands, 1 part blood and oxygen. It’s the way I’m built, and I’m not willing to change for anyone, so like it or lump it. There’s plenty of people that will love you for you; and the reason your friends are telling you he’s such a prick, is because they love you for exactly who you are and don’t want you to change either.
- Stop Stressing – This is much easier said than done for me as I am the biggest worrier and stresshead known to man, but last year showed me all it does is make me feel ill, and it doesn’t solve anything anyway. In 2019 I am going to try and be more levelheaded, think logically, and don’t let things that won’t matter in 5 years time stress me out for more than 5 minutes.
- Family & Friends Are A Priority – When all is said and done, romantic partners seldom give you the same emotional support and have the same longevity as family and good friends do, until you find the right one of course. I’ve learnt that relationships, romantically anyway, are temporary a lot of the time, but your family and close friends are the ones that will never stray, leave you high and dry, or try and hurt you, and those are the ones that should be held close.
- Gin Is Actually Quite Nice – Hated it my whole life; fell in love with it in 2018. Probably a bad move from me, there really was no more alcohol that I needed to like, was there? I was pretty sorted in that department. Now I really can drink a bar dry.
- No One Really Cares – I would always think ‘Oh god I bet that person is looking at my outgrown roots’ or ‘My eyeliner isn’t perfect, I bet everyones noticing’. The truth of the matter is, everyone is wrapped up in their own lives and problems, and no one really gives a shit about anyone else except their own circle, and their own lives. People do not care what strangers in the street look like, or what they’re doing. As bittersweet as it sounds, one of the best things I’ve learnt is that actually, no one gives a shit about you, and I mean that in the kindest way. Your friends and family, yeah. Margaret, 74, in M&S cafe eating a chilli con carne jacket potato? No.
I hope you enjoyed this post and I’ll speak to you all very soon.
All my love BGP xx