Advice From All The Women In My Life | International Women’s Day 2019

Hi everyone, I hope you’re all well.

Today is International Women’s Day, and with that in mind, I asked all of the women in my life to share with me a piece of advice, or something they’ve learnt over the years for this blog post.

I have asked my female family members, my friends, and women I work with and have worked with in the past through my blog and writing over the years to share with me what they’ve learnt as women. The below words are from the mothers, grandmothers, aunties, sisters, and daughters, businesswomen, leaders, and friends in my life; they’re all women who have somehow shaped the life I lead and positively contributed to it. I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I did and can take something from the words below. Thank you to everyone in my life who took the time to share something with me for this post. Happy International Women’s Day!

”I think it’s important to be authentic no matter what; don’t try and be who someone wants you to be!”

”Be courageous but kind”

”Resilience is key to success; you shouldn’t give up on anything just because you’ve had knock backs”

”Go through life with the confidence of the oldest, baldest man who’s ever tried chirpsing you”

”Ignore the confined timeline that society has set upon you as a woman based on your fertility. Reject the notion that other women are competition, there’s room for us all to be successful and happy”

”Know your worth in regards to relationships and friendships. If people aren’t treating you right and it isn’t making you happy, realise your worth and walk away from it”

”Worrying about something means you suffer twice”

”What’s meant for you will not pass you”

”No man is worth losing yourself over”

”A lot of things taste better than skinny feels. Kate Moss can fuck off”

”Always be true to yourself and don’t do things to please others”

”Do what makes you happy as life is short; time goes quickly so follow your dreams and don’t put things off”

”I’ve learnt that my body is never going to be perfect but it has grown and birthed 2 perfect children and I’ll always appreciate my mum tum for that”

”Be your own person, believe in everything you do, and make sure you are surrounded by good people who will never judge you, always support you, and bring you wine”

”Whenever you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, ask yourself if it will matter in a week, a month, a year, 5 years…if not, take a deep breath, and walk away with your head held high and if it does matter do the exact same thing”

”Don’t take shit from men”

”Do everything you want before you settle down; travel, enjoy life and have fun”

”I surround myself with positive people that encourage, help and support. My younger adult years felt like an overwhelming battle of bitchiness of ‘Who’s the prettiest’ and ‘What is she wearing’, and actually, it’s complete bullshit. In business I support other women all the time. I give advice, support and encourage. If I can teach my daughter to be a strong woman that’s kind then I know she’ll be okay. Be kind ALWAYS.”

”Don’t settle if you aren’t happy, travel the world as much as you can – there is a big wide world out there full of all different people from all walks of life; some people don’t get to experience that – don’t become one of them. Look after your family and friends, you need them as much as they need you. Be happy everyday, don’t dwell on things as in a years time you won’t even remember it! If you love someone, look after them and make them happy, but don’t let them walk all over you. You only live once so enjoy it!”

”No matter how low you are, very little (if any) of what’s bothering you will be important in six months, probably not even in three months – see shit for what it is and react accordingly”

And to finish things off, I thought I may as well share my own advice…

”Don’t compete for anyones love or time; you should always be a priority and shouldn’t have to prove yourself to anyone. Never underestimate your achievements. Make sure you take the time to look back at how far you’ve come. Keep hold of the few good, loyal friends you find throughout your life; you’ll want to hang on to them. You only get one go at life so make it count. Don’t be scared to tell people to fuck off when it’s necessary. Never, ever put up with bad behaviour in a relationship – you will find someone who kisses the ground you walk on in good time. Be whoever you want to be. You can love makeup and heels at the same time as loving politics and current affairs. And lastly, don’t let anyone shit on your dreams”

Thank you to all the strong women I have in my life – most of what you’ve read above has been written by people that have helped me through the worst times in my life, who have seen me at my lowest and who I’ve seen at their lowest. We are so lucky to have each other! And lastly, but not least, thank you to all the women who follow me, support me, and message me everyday…who run the world?

Speak soon.

All my love BGP xx